SweetieTots » My rants http://www.sweetietots.com My ADHD kids and parenting tips Sat, 06 Mar 2010 13:42:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 When people reach a certain age…. they badmouth http://www.sweetietots.com/when-people-reach-a-certain-age-they-badmouth/ http://www.sweetietots.com/when-people-reach-a-certain-age-they-badmouth/#comments Wed, 06 May 2009 03:16:42 +0000 小猫 http://www.sweetietots.com/?p=570 I hate badmouthing.

I noticed that when most people, when they reach a certain age, they like to badmouth practically anything under the sun.

I hate badmouthing.

No matter right or not, true or not true, I have decided to turn a deaf ear to it.

I can do it, so can you!

Stop badmouthing!

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I was working full time, so it may seem to be weird to those who suddenly see me fetching my kids…. every school day. And those who thought I am enjoying life at home, please take a look at your mother.

Seems to be constantly under attack from a visible force.

True, I am not looking for a job. At least, not now.

So, please stop bugging me to get a job because I quit because of my kids. And I won’t get a job until they prove to be self-sufficient without me around.

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]]> http://www.sweetietots.com/seems-constantly-under-attack/feed/ 0 When a “C” is Not Good Enough http://www.sweetietots.com/stressed-kids/ http://www.sweetietots.com/stressed-kids/#comments Wed, 25 Mar 2009 03:14:40 +0000 小猫 http://www.sweetietots.com/?p=556 It has been a while since I post something. Well, before I go on, I think I have not updated that I sent my boy for a ADHD Test last month. And he is diagnosed to have it. 61% positive, as the paper says.

Right now, the doctor that is handling Miloboy’s case need to get feedback from the school as well, and the next appointment will take place late next month.

But yesterday, something drastic happened that I am still having chills from it.

My boy is the last one to come out of school…. and he is in tears, shouting back at his teacher. The crying part is “normal” to me. As he is a crybaby. But the shouting part…. this is NOT NORMAL.

I listened through the whole event which lasted 5 minutes till the teacher talked to me, finally, as I was waiting for her. She has previously given me a hand signal to wait, so I thought it will be better to remain silent till she is ready.

She demanded from Miloboy (conversation between miloboy and teacher) that he have to complete the worksheet and hand in tomorrow in school. Miloboy was shouting back that he is not going to hand in tomorrow but on friday instead. He clearly shows his deviant nature here.

Then he ran out of the school gate, crying, while I quickly talked to the teacher and got my girl to help keep watch of miloboy.

What teacher complained is pretty normal, Daydreaming in class, Not Attentive in Class etc. From what she had told me, she is displeased at the fact that she thinks Miloboy is capable of doing and completing the Maths worksheet in time, but he was actually daydreaming in class, and that he got one of the questions wrong.

Conversation ended when my girl ran back to tell me miloboy had went further away and threw down his school bag. I chased after him but he is actually waiting for me, so he is not that far away afterall. He told me he is throwing tantrums and he is Like That, he will cry first, then throw tantrums, and he wanted to go home alone.

He stopped at a nearby playground, which is good to me, as he still have not stopped his tantrums. I had to activate his dad, who was on the way home, to help talk to him.

When his dad arrived at the playground, and told Miloboy that he should not be daydreaming in class, but instead, try to complete the maths, whether or not he had done it right, as long as he tried his best, then the shocking part came.

“It does matter if I did not do it Right!!”

“I cannot get a C!”

“I will get punished if I get a C!”

Both of us are pretty shocked. We never stress the kids to get good grades, cos we both know that good grades do not get you anywhere nor give you a good start when you come out to work. More importantly, its on how you handle people, its the social skills….

But of course we had to comfort him first, the harsh reality can wait. What is more important now is that he got to know, Good Grades Ain’t Everything.

In my heart, I was thinking does getting an “A” earn me more money? Unfortunately, the answer is a No!

From yesterday’s episode, we can easily tell that Miloboy’s ego is badly bruised. He hates people shouting at him, and this is the first time that he retailates by shouting back…. and that he knew his teachers ain’t pleased if he does not get everything question Right….

I know the teachers must have been pretty stressed as well. I used to read a blog from a teacher but it was shut down due to “unknown” reasons…. I know they are really stressed.

So this is that the Education System we are giving our kids? Stressed teachers and stressed kids.

Is there a Need to stress a Primary One, 7 year old kid to this extent?

And he has to answer all questions correctly?

Just when did my Miloboy become a Genius ?

Pretty Crazy I would say…..

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]]> http://www.sweetietots.com/stressed-kids/feed/ 5 Chinese New Year ‘Black’ Poem – 新年来了我就病倒 http://www.sweetietots.com/chinese-new-year-black-poem-%e6%96%b0%e5%b9%b4%e6%9d%a5%e4%ba%86%e6%88%91%e5%b0%b1%e7%97%85%e5%80%92/ http://www.sweetietots.com/chinese-new-year-black-poem-%e6%96%b0%e5%b9%b4%e6%9d%a5%e4%ba%86%e6%88%91%e5%b0%b1%e7%97%85%e5%80%92/#comments Sat, 24 Jan 2009 15:59:46 +0000 小猫 http://www.sweetietots.com/?p=534 Here’s a new poem I come up on my own for the Chinese New Year in view of the frustrations I am having…

新年到新年到
新年来了我就病倒
赶来赶去不得了

 

新年到新年到
孩子陪我到处跑
他们也就快病倒
不得了不得了

 

每年新年要来了
擦擦洗洗不能少
孩子陪我怎么扫
过年真是不得了

 

说个新年到笑话
祝你新年笑个饱！

 

May I wish all readers a Happy & Wonderful Chinese New Year!

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]]> http://www.sweetietots.com/chinese-new-year-black-poem-%e6%96%b0%e5%b9%b4%e6%9d%a5%e4%ba%86%e6%88%91%e5%b0%b1%e7%97%85%e5%80%92/feed/ 0 Afterthoughts on First & Second Day of Primary School http://www.sweetietots.com/afterthoughts-of-first-second-day-of-school/ http://www.sweetietots.com/afterthoughts-of-first-second-day-of-school/#comments Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:52:36 +0000 小猫 http://www.sweetietots.com/?p=515 Today is the second day of primary school for my boy, Miloboy.

As usual, he’s nonchalant and does not care much what is happening around him. He can pretty much adapt to the new environment, I guess. Just before he went to bed just now, he was telling his sister that he had learned NOTHING so far….

This is just the 2nd day, what can you expect? The actual learning has not started. Well, I can safely say that I will not be surprised that every other single student in his class has attended or are attending enrichment courses, but my boy does not.

Maybe I am depriving him of a so called “additional edge” but I am also giving him in return, a less stressful and happier childhood, enjoy more time with the family, and grow up to a kind and happy person.

My boy’s teacher also give out a letter on her expectations and what is required for school. Guess I will be busy doing some shopping then.

Oh yeah, I was actually VERY pissed with the over-zealous parents…. in Singapore, we call such parents “Kiasu”. I am unable to understand why most parents cannot tolerate a bit of waiting.

Warning:

Before you proceed, note that I am going to be VERY SARCASTIC below. :)

You see, the gate of the dismissal of the kids are not very wide, quite narrow in fact. On the first day of school dismissal, practically 95% of the parents jammed packed the school gate, making it very very slow, as in order to get in and get out, you need to squeeze through the CROWD… The school has already told us that dismissal are by classes, so it is actually more efficient if parents wait with a distance and only go forward to pick their kids when a class of kids comes out to be fetched home…..

but apparently, the majority of parents “CANNOT UNDERSTAND INSTRUCTIONS”, despite being fully educated.

On the second day, which is today, the situation does not improve BUT the school made adjustments in attempt to counter such Kiasu parents by placing barriers to avoid swarming of parents to pick up their kids. Such ungraceful behaviour of the parents puts me off.

Ok, that’s enough of my rant, and thanks for reading this.

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