Overprotective Over Children Does More Harm Than Good
I have thinking of writing a post on this.
My kids, especially Miloboy, has been overprotected. Not by me, but no point crying over spilled milk. I have been trying to guide them to be independent, bit by bit, so that the kids will not react defensively to me. Ever since I quit, I have been doing that.
There are trying times too. Sometimes the kids refuse to budge, cos they have been ‘pampered’ for at least 5 years of their life. Needless to say, Miloboy’s case is the most serious, I have to keep trying and trying.
Basic stuff like wearing own socks and shoes are perfectly fine for Miloboy now. He even brings out his own uniform to try wearing them himself ever since school reopens. It’s a great improvement! You see, I also got to ‘convince’ others to stop helping Miloboy. That’s why its taking me a long time to get Miloboy to do things himself, and does it well.
Miloboy now eats himself at the dinner table. Very significant improvement since school reopens.
Sweetie is doing well. Now waiting for her to get used to bathing by herself. She enjoys school, enjoys company, enjoys her teacher’s jokes and she seems very happy to go to school now. Compared to the first month, she sometimes cry when she misses me a lot. hehe
Her only problem is her emotional up and downs.
As for Miloboy, I need to hang on and control my temper when I see ’someone’ helping him. I had to talk to Miloboy separately to express my concerns.
Overprotection also causes problems when it comes to writing journals, dairy or a short story. The kids becomes not so creative and they will have problems when it comes to story writing, or we can call it a short composition. Primary One and Two children need to do this in school.
Parents have to be especially careful when handling and managing such kids. Miloboy sometimes makes me feel that everything I do is futile. But it is really not the case. Perserve on and you will see results, it just comes slowly.
